Color of the day: Gray
Incense of the day: Neroli
This spell requires your body and voice, and repetition. Stand with your feet hip-distance apart, arms at your sides.
Step forward with your dominant foot (if you are right-handed, then you are right-footed) while pushing away with your palms facing out in front. Say, “No.” Step back to your neutral starting position.
Step forward, raising your arms forward, with palms facing down toward the ground, and say, “Maybe.” Step back to neutral.
Stand firmly with your feet hipdistance apart. Roll your shoulders back, with arms loosely at your sides, palms up, and say, “Yes.”
Envision a situation that requires your consent. Practice using your voice and body to respond. Practice “stepping into it” and saying what is needed: no, maybe, or yes. Feel the power of embodied consent.
When you repeat this practice 300 times, you develop muscle memory. And when you repeat it 3,000 times, you create new neurological pathways that will make future access to these skills almost automatic. Then, without having to think about it, you can practice embodied consent even when confronted with a sudden stressful event. And that embodied consent is the magic we most need to use in a crisis.