Aft er years of abuse, belittlement, and intimidation, I left my husband one February 25th. After years of compromising, trying harder, making peace, and doing more, better and faster, I came to the end of the enchantment. I was aware of what I hated in him. I said, “I’m not doing this anymore. I’m done.”

While many of us are in safe, secure relationships with people who love and cherish us, we all have situations with people, places, practices, or things where we need to break the spell of enchantment and be free.

To cast your own good riddance spell, you need pen and paper, a pinch of courage, a dash of self-worth, and a good measure of fortitude. Write down everything you hate about the person, place, practice, or thing. Feel the depth of despair. Crumple the paper, throw it in the garbage, and say:

Good riddance. I’m done. Be free.

Repeat daily if needed.