My previous post on this subject has kicked up a storm on the internet. I've received numerous emails and comments—often angry complaints—about what I wrote. Basically, they come down to this: how dare I suggest that a person change in order to attract a partner. It's fake. It's not being yourself.Kyle wrote (see comment #3 to my original post), "Many people would scream at this line and say, 'but why should she change who she is to attract a man? Shouldn’t she just be herself?'" Indeed, several people have done just that.  Kyle responds to that saying that choosing to change could be "door opening." While that's a possibility, I think there's more to it. I agree, 100%, with the