Two years ago I made a blog post about poverty thinking and how that can be a cause of impoverishment. I showed that on some level many people see the wealth of the world as being like a pie, and if you make your piece bigger, someone else will get a smaller piece. Not wanting to harm others, people with this mode of thinking settle for what they have. What I pointed out, however, is that when you make your piece bigger, the entire pie grows in size, increasing the wealth of everyone. Today, I think I would put it this way: As long as your means of obtaining wealth was ecological—by which I mean good for you, good for those around you, and good for your community and the world—your

My previous post on this subject has kicked up a storm on the internet. I've received numerous emails and comments—often angry complaints—about what I wrote. Basically, they come down to this: how dare I suggest that a person change in order to attract a partner. It's fake. It's not being yourself.Kyle wrote (see comment #3 to my original post), "Many people would scream at this line and say, 'but why should she change who she is to attract a man? Shouldn’t she just be herself?'" Indeed, several people have done just that.  Kyle responds to that saying that choosing to change could be "door opening." While that's a possibility, I think there's more to it. I agree, 100%, with the